Thursday, March 27, 2008

a thought on friendships?

“I do not wish to treat friendships daintily, but with the roughest courage. When they are real, they are not glass threads or frost-work, but the solidest thing we know.”
—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882), poet, philosopher, writer

have you ever been completely wrong about someone you thought was a good and true friend? please share your stories and your thoughts...we can get through this together...

napa farmhouse1885


Anonymous said...

Are you going to tell us more about the friend who hurt you? What happened? I e-mailed you this question also.

Anonymous said...

Yes, my best friend from high school. We had been friends since 5th grade, but our senior year, she turned on me. I let it go and we reconnected years later but she was even worse of a person. In the beginning, she is very nice and loving and friendly and then it is like a switch turns on. She lies, cheats (literally, on her now ex-husband), is always putting other people down and making fun of them and she is very controlling. If you don't do for her, or she doesn't get her way, she is downright evil. I just had enough and cut all ties. Don't take it personally. People like that get what is coming to them. Last I heard, my "friend" got pregnant by someone she worked with (he was married) and his wife found out. She lost her job and the wife was seeking damages. People like that can only go on for so long before reality kicks them in the butt. Most likely, you weren't wrong about her, she was just putting on a front. Plus, you have all of us farmgals here for you, so phoey to her.


Anonymous said...

Yep, every time I make a friend after a year or 2 they are out.
It is usually them who make the move
maybe there is something wrong with me
I guess maybe I tell to much and expect to much from friends
But, I like them to see how I really am,
the true me.
I thought that that was what "true Friendship"
was all about
Also, I noticed a lot of times, I was a "sound board"
You know , where you listen to every one elses woes they dump on you;but, when you need advice they are no where around,

Anonymous said...

My best friend in college. When I got married I asked my sister to be my maid of honor instead of her although she was still a bridesmaid and I guess it really made her mad. Then I picked a bridesmaid dress that was "too expensive". So I offered to pay half of the cost of the dress. She was already married and so when I invited her to the wedding I assumed she would bring her husband. When she showed up she had two friends that had gone to high school with her instead of her husband. We didn't go to HS together so I didn't know them. We were paying for her hotel and food for the weekend. She brought her friends to the rehersal dinner and to our "girls night put" party before the wedding. She expected us to pay for them. I totally wouldn't have minded if she had asked but she didn't ask! After the wedding she gave me a card that said "Good luck with your marriage. Richie is totally the WRONG guy for you and I have my doubts about it working out. You jumped into this with out much rational thought so all I can really say is that I will pray for you!"

WHAT? I never spoke to her again!

Anonymous said...

I think really good friends are rare. I heard a saying once, it goes something like this. Some people come into your life for a very brief time, some for a lifetime and in both cases we can recognize the value in the friendship. The tough ones are the friends who come into your life for a long time, but not a lifetime, because we expect the friendship to be enduring.

Hope it helps,
A new friend from Texas